Top 10: Signs She's Cheating
From
the desk of Shawn Croft -
AskMen.com
No man
likes to discover that his wife or girlfriend has set her eyes on
another man. What is even more heart shattering is the discovery that
she has already done the unimaginable and cheated on you.
Here are some signs that she might have taken a roll in another man's
hay bale. But before you start suspecting your girlfriend or accusing
your wife of cheating, remember that these are just signs. Ultimately,
you should trust your instincts.
You must also be on the look out for combinations of these cheating
signs for a more definitive indication of trouble. Lastly, there is the
chance, however slight, that she is actually doing some of these things
to provoke jealousy or to attract you , so be careful, be wise and, most
importantly, be smart.
Number 10
Scent
of another man
Scent is
a very important sign of cheating girlfriend, but if she suddenly starts
wearing a new fragrance, the alarm bells need not sound off. She might
be simply trying to spice things up in your relationship. Going off the
deep end too soon could damage your love life -- permanently. However,
if you smell another man's cologne on her clothes, hands or neck, then
she may be planting her lips where she shouldn't. Watch out.
Number 9
She
doesn't criticize you anymore
There
was a time when she cared about what you did or said, in fact, she used
to hound you about those type of things. Now, it seems that she couldn't
care less if you were dead or alive and concern about your habits, good
and bad, have retreated to the recesses of her mind. She might have
simply given up on trying to convert you or she finally accepted your
faults, but she could have just as easily met someone else who does not
have your faults and bad qualities.
Number 8
You
caught her in a lie
Catching
her in a flat-out
lie
is a key sign that she is cheating on you or doing something wicked.
When you discover that the person you're supposed to trust has been
lying to you, your feelings will surely run the gamut -- from anger to
rage, and from frustration to sadness. But keep this in mind: if men are
stuck with the "once a liar, always a liar" lyric, the same stigma can
be applied to women.
Number 7
Your
sex life is nonexistent
In the
past, the two of you went at it like wild animals in heat, but now she
gives you the cold shoulder when you try to initiate sexual relations
and intimacy is nonexistent. Either she has lost interest in you, which
is not good, or she is getting her kicks elsewhere, which is really not
good. It's time for a talk if the two of you are still intimate but find
that she lacks any desire for you.
Number 6
She has
a new wardrobe
She has
an entirely new wardrobe, her
lingerie
has taken a cue from Victoria's Secret and her hair looks great. She
could be cheating on you, but here is a warning to the paranoid: if she
started a new job, for example, she is probably not cheating. If she is
doing this all for you, wake up and please her as she is not cheating on
you... at least not yet.
Number 5
She's
getting in shape
She hits
the gym,
eats healthier and she has her eyes set on becoming fit in a short
time span. Again, she might be looking to improve her health and
lifestyle or she might be doing the extra laps for you. But if she gets
home from the gym, showers and runs out (without telling you where she's
off to), then something is up.
Number 4
She
works longer hours
A
surprising number of women have admitted that if they were to cheat, it
would likely be with a colleague. So unless she was just promoted, has a
project to close or she's in the midst of a busy season, her work hours
should remain more or less stable. If she suddenly starts working 60
hours a week instead of 40, she might just be "logging" in those 20
extra hours on someone else's pay sheet. You should take note, as it
might be time for you to punch out.
Number 3
She
likes her new colleague
Your
girlfriend might be cheating if she was, at one time, constantly talking
about her new male colleague, pal or friend and suddenly stopped. This
guy, who at first seemed to seemed to be the center of the universe,
suddenly disappeared from the radar. Actually, he only disappeared from
your radar, as he has become the number one bogey on hers. If you see
your girlfriend showing any form of affection toward another man, alarm
bells should start ringing. The only instances that you shouldn't
suspect her of cheating are if this man is a relative or an old friend.
Could this reverence for the new star employee be the reason she no
longer invites you to the office parties?
Number 2
You're cut off from her family
Her
family is now exactly that: her family. One reason for the extra barrier
might be to facilitate the eventual separation caused by her cheating or
she needs her family to cover up for her. Perhaps the "in-laws" are in
the dark as much as you, and would not condone her actions. Whatever her
motives, you have discovered that you actually miss the family
gatherings that you once dreaded.
Number 1
She has
become defensive and paranoid
She
thinks that you are out to get her when you are genuinely clueless about
her cheating ways. She stutters and worries excessively when you ask her
innocent questions. She answers some phone calls and reacts awkwardly,
while she completely avoids other calls. Her sudden fear and paranoia
have you worried about her health, until you realize that her health
regimen has been getting an extra dose of protein.
she's
the cheating kind
If you
notice any one of the aforementioned signs in your girlfriend or wife,
don't fly off the handle just yet. Remember, it's important to keep
sudden behavioral changes in mind as you examine and contrast her
regular actions against her new attitude. When you suspect your girl of
cheating it is best to follow your instincts first and to keep an eye
out for any number of signs. Naturally, our first instinct when we
discover a cheating girlfriend is to end the relationship. However, this
is up to you and you need to consider what you might have done, if
anything, to provoke the cheating and how much time you have invested in
the relationship.
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